Monday, February 27, 2012

Stranger Danger.

In the past year I have had enough stupid questions and advice from strangers to write a book.  I know that they mean well, are really probably trying to help, and are obviously concerned by asking me questions.  But it!   

Here is my top ten list of questions and comments that I've gotten from strangers in the past year ...

1.  What's wrong with your baby?  [Asking about Cason & his eczema. I would never just bluntly ask someone what was wrong with their child.  Would you go up to someone with a child in a wheel chair and ask what is wrong with them? I sure wouldn't!]

2. Oatmeal/Lotion/Baby oil/Foot Fungus medicine/Menthol/Steroids will cure eczema. [Obviously some of these things will make it better, but the only thing that has pretty much taken it away was finding out what he was allergic to and taking these things out of his diet.]

3. A stranger started up a conversation with me at a restaurant and it went a little like this ...

Stranger: Hi. Does he have eczema?
Me: Yes, he does.
S:  You need to give him an oatmeal bath, that will cure it.
M: I can't. He's allergic to oatmeal.
S: That's the stupidest thing I've ever heard. No one is allergic to oatmeal.
M: Actually, he is. Oatmeal has gluten in it. He started wheezing, and his lip swelled up when he consumed gluten for the first time.  I'm not rubbing it all over his body.
S:  You need to just do it.  It's better for him to not be itchy. If he can't breath, just take him to the hospital!  
M: [I had nothing more to say at this point. I think I just blankly stared at her until she went on to the next topic.]

4. The same conversation with the very same stranger ...

S: I saw you doing something with blood and his finger. [Talking about Callan.] What were you doing?
M: I was checking his blood sugar. He has diabetes.
S: And you do this in public?
M: Yes. I need to check his blood sugar every time before he eats.
S: Do you give him shots?
M: Yes. He gets a shot every time he eats, or if his blood sugar is too high.
S: Do you do this in public?
M: Yes.
S: That's disgusting. You should take him into the bathroom to do that. No one wants to see it. You'll scare the other kids.
M: [Biting my tongue so hard that it nearly falls off because if I don't I will surely say something horrible, and maybe go to jail for brutally assaulting someone.]

5. Someone who is 2 years old shouldn't have diabetes. You must be feeding him junk.

6. That's the stupidest thing I've ever heard in my life! You need to get a new doctor! [After educating someone that Type 1 Diabetes is an autoimmune disorder and isn't caused by lifestyle or diet.]

7.  You should just give him cinnamon!  That cured my diabetes. [An older woman at a restaurant.]

8. Your baby has eczema because you don't take care of him.  

9.  I guess you should have stopped after having 3 kids since your youngest two have so many problems.

10.  Of course he has diabetes, look how FAT he is!!  [Callan is almost 3 years old, 42", and 43lbs. He is big, not fat.]

So, is this only happening to me, or do y'all hear the same things?? 


1 comment:

  1. Oh man, I hear that crazy stuff all the time too. People stare when she checks her BG, they tell us about crazy ways to cure it, and we get that "oh she's so young to be diabetic" all the time too. And yes, these comments are from complete strangers, the people who know us ask questions, but they are never rude sometimes they do ask stupid questions, but I now they are curious and mean well. It's the complete strangers that are so ridiculous. I just stare too, there comes a point when you just don't know what to say.